B+E Wedding

I had to pleasure of shooting with one of my good friends, Holly of Aperture Aficionado Photography, a little over a month ago.
It has been so hectic around there, that I’m just now getting around to posting a few for you to see.
I’ve also updated my photography website with some new pictures (look in the following galleries: Children, Babies & Weddings).

After this particular wedding, Holly asked if we could take some portraits at a local ranch.
So we did.
And there was a zebra in the fence! So neat. You can see him in the background of the first and last shots posted below.

I will be shooting another wedding this weekend with Candace in Fayetteville — really looking forward to that 🙂

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Happy Birthday, my sweet Cailyn!

Dearest Cailyn,
Four short years ago, I was anxiously awaiting the arrival of my second daughter.
I fantasized about your newborn scent, the grasp of your tiny fingers upon mine and the first precious time I would see you smile or hear you giggle. I hoped you would have a fantastic bond with your older sister. And I just knew that you would complete the circle of our family.

Now, four years later, you are still my baby.
You still like to rest your hand in mine.
Your smile and giggle still make me chuckle.
You are your sister’s best friend. And at times, her worst enemy. But I hear that’s pretty typical with sisters.

You have grown so much this last year.
You started preschool. The first few days, you cried. And I expected it. Anyone that knows you also knows that you are a true mommy’s girl. You would grip my legs/arm/shirt/whatever as tightly as you could when presented with strangers or a different situation. But this year? This year the grasp has loosened.

You have learned to write your name and draw dandy little people and animals.
You make me cards every chance you get and I’m afraid I will have to rent a storage unit to house all of your artwork.

Precious, you are.

This year, though, you have also found your sass. And your squeal. And your attitude.
You are finding yourself.
I feel so privileged to have a front row seat to the everyday theatrics of Cailyn’s World.

You love dressing up and having tea parties.
You play with your Littlest Pet Shop collection for hours.
You have learned what a Pinky Promise is and we perform this little ritual several times a week when I mention we might have an ice cream sundae for good behavior.
You like things done a certain way, or Cailyn’s World falls apart.
And that’s okay, because you’re also learning a lot about compromise and consequences.

Before school started this year, we moved you out of your sister’s bedroom and gave you your very own room.
You were so proud. You painstakingly placed your toys and cherished possessions in “just da wight spot”. Oh, and I pity the fool who tried to “clean” your room, for you knew where each item belonged.
You started announcing it was time to nap and would happily tuck yourself into your own bed whenever you felt the need. You just liked hanging out in there.
You still do, but I’m finding you snuggled up next to your sister more and more these days. And I think it’s absolutely adorable that you would rather fight for your share of the blanket than be apart from Carys.
You love her so, so much.

You’ve turned into Daddy’s Buddy this year, too.
You’ve always been attached to my hip; and I have SO loved walking into the the living room to see you cuddled with Daddy in his chair, watching television. You’ve loved having him home so much.
You want to help him do things, like cut the grass and check the mail. And you get so excited when Daddy joins us for an excursion to the park, beach or even the grocery store.

Your favorite things in the world, in no particular order, are:
Maisy Mouse, your beloved tag-a-long.
Being outside until you get dirty. Then you’re done.
Drawing.
Lucy the wonder dog.
Fiona the wonder cat.
PlayDoh.
Watermelon.
Ice water.
“Swimming”. Which is really you just begging me to hold you in the pool, lake or ocean.
Naps time. Seriously. You love a “big fat nap.”
Gummy worms.
Bubble gum. You try so hard to blow bubbles.

I still can’t believe you’re four.
Sometimes you act much older than that.
And sometime you have to remind me that you “are still vewy tiny, Mommy”.

Very often, you will stop what you’re doing and run to me, so excited.
“What is it, CaiCai?”
“I just had to tell you I love you so much, Mommy!”
And off you go, to play and laugh.
Those are the best moments of my day, every day.

My baby.
My sweet, sweet Cailyn.

Happy Birthday sweet girl.
I hope you always know I love you as high as the sky and as deep as the ocean.

Music: John Mayer, The Heart of Life
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Bye-Bye Kindergarten!

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Carys has been protesting the end of the school year.
Not the homework, getting up and going to bed early, or behaving part.
The moving up to a new grade part.

She has finally made peace with it though.
She walked across the stage today and proudly smiled at me.
She was so stinkin’ proud of herself.
She won an award for being a good student all year and won her class’ award for most books read (over 600, and yes, we DID read that many!).

Next week marks her last day of school as a kindergartner.
Wow.
And I thought I would never survive this year without her at home.
And now…I wonder how I will survive the Summer with her home.

I kid. (Kinda.)

Congratulations to my little graduate!
We are so proud of you!

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The Delightful Miss Charlotte

Meet Charlotte.
She’s 14 months old.
And sweet as pie.
And adorable.
And full of grins and giggles and gurgles.

Did I mention how sweet she was during our shoot last week?
Absolutely delightful!

Thanks, Donna, for letting me capture her newest skill: walking!

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I’ve also made some cosmetic changes to my photography site.
Visit when you have a moment. I hope you enjoy it — I’ve had a lot of fun putting it together and plan even more tweaks in the near future.
I am definitely staying busy with photoshoots lately; which does my heart good!
It feels completely AWESOME to do something I absolutely love and make others happy at the same time.

I currently have limited slots available in the next few weeks and months — so please shoot me an email if you’d like to schedule a session.
Portrait sessions are $100 for a limited time only. Email me! You’ll be glad you did. I guarantee it 🙂

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Licky-what? and other Lanford updates

After waiting on pins & needles all weekend about Cailyn’s blood test, I heard from our PA Monday evening. The two tests he had in hand were negative. No Lyme’s. No Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever. But we had to wait for the third test to come back Tuesday.

As luck would have it, I was away with Chad Tuesday afternoon while he had PRK performed (a laser eye surgery to try and help his right eye focus better). I missed the call, but my mom was here to talk to the PA.

“The third test is positive for a exposure to ehrlichiosis.”  And now I’ll just paraphrase:  with her current antibiotic, she should be just fine.
What the heck is licky-what?
You can read more about it at the CDC website, which is just what I did. (Click on CDC and it will take you straight to the ehrlichiosis page.)

It’s a bacterial illness that causes flu-like symptoms and can lead to more serious stuff if left untreated. Thankfully, we were on top of it and the little miss will be alright. If she shows any further symptoms this Summer, we may have to have her tested for Lyme’s again, as it can sometimes take a while to show up in the bloodstream and mimics many other common illnesses, so it’s hard to diagnose at times. I’m hoping we won’t have to worry about it. And rest assured I’ll freak out every time she catches a tiny cold this Summer.

She turns FOUR very soon and we’re planning her birthday party. She is so excited!

Chad handled his PRK well. He was in some pain last night, but it seems to be a bit better today. He had a follow-up exam this morning and will have to go in again on Friday to (maybe) have the contact lens removed in his right eye. The lens is there temporarily to help protect his eye and help everything stay in place as it heals.
This is the third eye procedure he’s had done in three years, so we’re hopeful that this one will help him see better and we’ll be done with laser eye surgeries.

He is chronically tired, which I don’t see improving. We’ve finally gotten the green light to try more Ritalin during the day, so we’ll try that and see if it helps any.

He has an appointment with his oncologist next week, as well as his neurologist. I see some more “trial-and-error” talks coming, which just makes me tired.

He did join us at the lake on Saturday for my cousin’s 21st birthday party. It was a long day for him, but I he stuck it out all day.

He cut his hair all off again. I’ll make him pose for a picture when he’s feeling up to it.
He looks like a fresh Army recruit, all shaved down.

Carys is doing great! She will complete kindergarten in a few more weeks. Her last day is June 10.
I can’t wait to see her walk across the stage for kinder graduation. So sweet!

And for me?
Staying busy.
Watching the miles turn over on the van from all the driving I’ve done recently.
Photoshoots are filling my free time! And I couldn’t be more excited about the things that are coming up!

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Couldn’t make this stuff up if i tried! (update at end)

I was hoping for a restful and uneventful end to our week.
But. No.

Chad is doing well. He is still extremely tired, which is to be expected. He says he feels well (“normal” for him, anyway).

Yesterday afternoon, Cailyn came down with a fever. She was very tired. Her nose was running a bit — so I knew it was a cold coming on.
But. Wait.

Yesterday marked the tenth day that she was bitten by a deer tick. The tick was probably there for about 18 hours, maybe a little more, before we discovered it. I removed it with tweezers and I think I removed the whole thing. Deer ticks are so tiny that it can be hard to tell. Later that day, we found another tick on her collar bone, but it was much easier to remove.

Today…Cailyn has been complaining of flu-like symptoms. Fever. Chills. Headache.
And she has this on her back, right between her shoulder blades where the tick was embedded.

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She has an appointment with her pediatrician at 11 this morning. She is feel so puny and I just hate that such a small little bug can wreak so much havoc on her little body.

I will update when I know what’s going on with her. I’m trying to stop Googling things about deer tick bites because it’s making me sick to my stomach.

Updated Saturday, 5/15 at 10:30am:
Cailyn was so lethargic at the doctor’s office yesterday that she didn’t make a sound or even close her eyes during the blood draw. They put the tourniquet on her tiny little arm and I was shocked that she didn’t freak out. I knew she felt bad, but geesh! She was such a trooper through all that.

The bloodwork results won’t be back until Tuesday.
We’re told it’s unlikely that it’s Lyme’s Disease (“rare” in our area), but it could be Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever. Or, Cailyn could have just had a localized reaction the bite and the reaction is just very similar to the more serious RMSF.

In any event, Cailyn also has a raging double ear infection — and hadn’t complained about her ears at all.
Her fever was extremely hard to manage yesterday, but finally broke after I made her soak in the tub all afternoon.
It’s hovering around 99 degrees today – I’ll take it!

She is on a heavy dose of antibiotics that are playing double-duty for the ear infections and tick bite reaction/infection.
I’m supposed to take her back in on Monday so they can have another look.

Thanks for keeping my little diva in your thoughts & prayers! She is, mostly, back to her diva ways as of this morning.

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Home again, home again. Jiggety Jig.

We got home Wednesday evening around 5:00.
The discharge process took all day, literally. But that’s okay — at least we are H.O.M.E.

I didn’t get to post many updates from my phone – it was just a little too challenging to do so. I couldn’t see what I was typing, so I just decided to post later (now).

Here are the events, as I have pieced them together and witnessed.
Chad, Cailyn & I were exhausted Tuesday afternoon. I laid down with Cailyn and fell asleep. I remember Chad getting up around 4:15, which is usual. Carys’ bus drops her off anywhere between 4:30 and 5pm, so he takes a stroll down our street until the bus decided to show up.
I glanced at the clock and scolded myself for falling asleep when I had so much to do. But then close my eyes because I figured ten more minutes wasn’t going to hurt anything…

I awoke to a voice in the distance, yelling something. I couldn’t quite make out what it was, but I quickly realized it was Carys. She usually sings or talks VERY loudly all the way home from the bus stop. I thought she was complaining that Chad hadn’t taken the dog to the bus stop to meet her; which has been a common complaint recently.
But. No.

She ran into my room, panicked but also calm. I’m not exactly sure how to describe the look on her face. She was crying. And she was scared. She told me, “Daddy is having a seizure in the road.” Without thinking, I leaped from the bed and ran. No time for shoes. No time for anything.
As soon as I spotted him lying in the street, my pace quickened. Automatically.
He was lying in the road, on his back. His head and most of his body were in the street. His right foot was in the neighbor’s grass.
Convulsing. Spitting.
It was bad.

The girls were both outside by now, and I was trying to shield their view as much as possible. I sat at his head, with my back facing the girls so they couldn’t see much of what was going on. I had them wait close by our mailbox so they wouldn’t see too much.

I took Chad’s elbows in the palms of my hands so he wouldn’t scrape them too badly.
I made sure his head was turned to the side.
I  placed the jacket Carys haphazardly discarded in the middle of the street underneath his head.

I noticed a large bruise and abrasion on the right side of his head. He had fallen. Maybe?
Carys didn’t see what actually happened. She was talking to him, walking a few steps ahead. When he didn’t respond to one of her questions, she turned around to see why he wasn’t paying attention to her. And then she instantly discovered why.

My brave girl says she told him “not to be scared.” And that she was “going to get help”.
Bless her heart. I feel so bad that she had to witness the beginning of such a brutal seizure and be responsible for finding help.
She did such a great job, and we are all so very, very proud of her.
Chad had been feeling normal, or he would have never gone to get Carys off the bus. He doesn’t remember much about Tuesday, but he says he doesn’t think he had any warning (aura: a feeling that a seizure is coming on); it just hit him.

Once I got to Chad, I glanced at my watch. 4:43 pm.
The minutes passed. 4:47 pm.
The seizure didn’t let up. 4:50 pm.
Normally, one of his seizures lasts a maximum of 4 minutes.
Our neighbors were on their way home from work and passed us in the street. Thankfully, they took care of the girls for me.
Another neighbor, who happened to be taking out his trash, came out to see how he could help.
After a few more minutes with no signs of relief, I asked him to call 911. Chad had been seizing for nearly 25 minutes. 5:08 pm.

The ambulance was on it’s way, but Chad’s body was still in motion.
Looking back, I don’t think it was ONE large seizure. I think it was a series of large tonic-clonic (“grand mal”) and petite seizures with no periods of rest in between. His body had a distinct pattern of seizing wildly for a few minutes, followed by less intense minutes. Then it would repeat. And repeat. And repeat.
He was in and out of consciousness, and I was scared.
As my neighbors waited in the street, I sprinted home to call Chad’s parents, my mom and grab my purse and an already-packed overnight bag. I have learned, unfortunately, to have this bag ready at all times.

The ambulance arrived and administered a nasal injection (to reach his brain quickly). Chad tried to fight this off; he didn’t like to feeling of a liquid being shot up his nose. He tried to push away the oxygen mask because he didn’t understand what was going on.

I had already moved the van closer to the ambulance so I could follow — but I forgot to grab Chad’s medicines. The EMTs said they had to go NOW and couldn’t wait for me to get the meds. I knew that I could never remember all the doses and names of the drugs, so I agreed to meet them at the hospital. They left. Chad was still seizing, although not as intensely. I was later told that Chad stopped convulsing about 2-3 minutes after they got him loaded in the ambulance.

Total seizure time was 33 minutes.
Unimaginable.

I arrive in the ER, anxious at what I would find.

On my ride there, I kept thinking about the length of the seizure and the possibility that Chad could have fallen and severely hurt himself.
After 10 minutes of seizure activity, he could have suffered serious and permanent brain damage.
He went on for so much longer than that. I was scared for him.
I had about 20 minutes (the time it took me to drive to WakeMed) to resign myself to the fact that he would have brain damage.
I was certain that his body could not have handled the stress and prolonged seizure activity.
I had to get all of these negative thoughts out of the way before I saw him in the ER.

When they let me back, I was bombarded by nurses, EMTs and social worker for information.
After the flurry of questioning was over, I finally saw that Chad was okay. He couldn’t talk. He couldn’t move his right side very well. He couldn’t squeeze my hand when I asked him to. But he did wiggle his toes and feet when I asked. He understood me!

They wheeled him back to a ER bay, away from triage. And we were placed in the EXACT same room (C-22) as his first ER trip in November 2007.
There, we waited for hours.
He gradually started to talk, but the only thing he could say was “yea”. No matter what we asked, the response was the same.
“Does your head hurt? Does your belly hurt? Does your neck hurt? All “yea” — and he was growing more frustrated when he couldn’t get the words out that he actually meant to say. He went for a CT scan to check for any active bleeding in his brain.

Later in the evening, about 11pm I guess, her started producing spontaneous sentences, but would quickly lose focus. He would latch on to a sentence and repeat it for 15-20 minutes at a time.
“Can you find me a Sprite?” Then he would get agitated when we gave him a Sprite. He didn’t want a Sprite. He wanted to use the bathroom, but couldn’t find the words to tell us.
“Why does my belly hurt?” He asked me this at least 150 times. Over and over. He was so insistent that the ER doctor sent him over for a chest x-ray, just to be safe.

The CT looked okay; there was no active bleeding. However, with no scan to compare it to, the ER doctors couldn’t say if there was tumor growth or not.
The chest x-ray showed a small amount of fluid in his right lung, where he had been complaining of intense pain. It’s very likely that he aspirated (breathed in saliva) while seizing. The medical team wasn’t too concerned about it turning into pneumonia, but did mention to keep an eye out for fever and coughing. (None to mention, thankfully!)
Chad fell while cutting the grass about two weeks ago and most likely fractured a rib. When he fell Tuesday, it’s highly likely he injured that area again; causing his severe discomfort. The x-ray didn’t reveal a break, but the technician admitted that rib fractures are hard to detect and he suspected the pain was actually from a fracture or crack. There is nothing they can really do about it, unless he punctured his lung – but that didn’t happen, so we just have to tough that part out.

When we were finally admitted and sent to a room, it was shortly after 2am Wednesday morning.
He was able to get some sleep and we was definitely feeling marginally better.
I suppose it took Chad more than 8 hours to regain his speech and gross motor functions after his seizure.

We met with the neurologist on call from our regular neurology office on Wednesday morning. He, like myself, was very hesitant to increase the dosages of the two anti-seizure medications Chad is on. These are great drugs, and they are doing what they are supposed to do; it’s highly likely that Chad will always have breakthrough seizures, no matter the dose.
We are all fairly confident that Chad’s extreme fatigue over the last year is due to the large doses of anti-convulsant medications. It wouldn’t make much sense to increase the dosages and make him more lethargic. So, the new plan is to introduce a third medication in hopes of slowly weaning him off his second medication. He should, hopefully, only be on three seizure medications for a few weeks.  If you remember, we tried this not long ago with Topamax, in hopes that it would lessen his headaches and seizure activity. It didn’t really help, so we discontinued it. This new drug, Lactimal, is supposed to reduce seizures AND help Chad think more clearly. Wouldn’t that be fabulous? If he could get rid of the fogginess AND get some energy back?
It’s what we hope for.

Right now, we have a plan to meet with Chad’s regular neurologist at the end of the month.

Next week, we’ll be busy:
Blood draw on Monday.
Chad will be having PRK (a follow-up laser eye adjustment) on Tuesday.
Follow-up Wednesday.
Portrait session Thursday.
Nothing on Friday. But I’m sure that will change.

Thank you, as always, for your constant prayers. I could feel all of you with us during the chaos on Tuesday and Wednesday and I just appreciate each of you caring so much for our family.
I will keep you posted, but we are hoping there will be nothing to report for a while.

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16 hours later

E finally got into a room at 2am. W barely slept…e don’t have a door, just a curtain. It is so loud!

I was extremely concerned last night, as any seizure over 10 minutes can be harmful to Chad’s brain functions. It took him a very long time to regain his ability to talk coherently. This is not really surprising because he seized for so long (33 minutes).
Around midnight, h started talking pretty well but was having issues with word recall.
This morning, he is exhausted but more like himself.

The neurologist on call from our regular office just came to speak with us. He & I are both hesitant to go higher on Chad’s current medication dosages. The tw anti-seizure meds are the best for him, but they are already on high doses and they are contributing t his chronic lethargy.

I. Apologize fr any gross grammar errors. Posting a blog update is quite challenging on my phone.

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Chad in the er

Chad suffered a massive seizure today. After 20 minutes I has our neighbor call 911.
Total seizure time was 33 minutes.

We are at WakeMed in th ER. Chad is having a CT scan now.
He hit his head hard in the road when he fell.
I will update when I can.

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