Changing Careers

Today was a lot like most days.
But it was also a bit different.

Chad changed careers, so to speak.

After picking Cailyn up from preschool, Chad and I ventured to his office.
He cleaned out his cubicle and turned in his ID badge.
We had been discussing it for a while, and he decided he had put it off long enough.

A few friends helped him box up everything from his career in civil engineering.
Those seven canary-yellow boxes now reside in our mudroom, stacked half-way up the wall.
And there they will sit until we locate the  determination to find a permanent location for their contents.

Books. Calculators. Rulers.
(Which I’m sure all have fancier professional names than that…)

We spoke to a few of Chad’s co-workers and I entertained Cailyn while Chad’s boxed-up career was loaded into the back of our van.

Was it hard?
Absolutely.
Chad worked so hard and genuinely enjoyed going to work before he was diagnosed.
He was always thinking of ways to do his job more effectively and help others do the same.
He studied and sacrificed so much to complete his Master’s Degree and Professional Engineering license.

My neighbor & I were talking yesterday afternoon, and he said something that validated a topic I’d been pondering lately.

He said, “You know, Skye, sometimes bad things happen. But who’s to say that it’s not really a good thing? God doesn’t make mistakes….Chad no longer works. But that means he’s home with you and the girls.”

And it’s absolutely true.
God does not make mistakes.
He makes statements.
And sometimes we struggle to determine the meaning behind it all.
I know what God wanted to share with us this time:

This is not the end of his career.
It’s the beginning of a new one.

He is with US.
He’s a Full Time, Stay-at-Home Dad.
And a Full Time, Stay-at-Home Husband.

We’ll have more memories.
We’ll have more laughs.
We’ll just have…Chad.
We’ll have more time.
More time together.

I just hope Chad doesn’t expect me to pay him.
I forgot to mention it was a non-paid position when he accepted my offer.

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Bracelets & Business Cards

Today, the UPS man delivered two things that I’ve been waiting on – Chad’s bracelets and my new photography business cards!

I always wear a yellow Livestrong bracelet, but it’s now being replaced with Chad’s gray version. (Gray is the color of the Brain Cancer Awareness ribbon.) I will have them available the day of Chad’s fundraiser — or you can shoot me an email if you’d like one before then. One for $3 or two for $5. I’ll mail ’em to ya if you throw in the cost of a stamp 🙂 .

We’re also working on a t-shirt to be available at Chad’s fundraiser (and hopefully earlier by pre-order).
More details to come as they are available.

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And, I’ve also been changing things around with my photography business.
There is a new site (that I’m still working on, by the way, so don’t hold it against me). Enliven Designs will be pointing to the new site soon – and I still offer all the same things. I’m just shifting to focus of my site to be more photography-based.

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BBQ Chicken & Cornbread

BBQ Bake

1 tbsp EVOO
1/2 onion, diced
1/2 each: red & green bell peppers, diced
1 small jalapeno, diced – optional (I left it out this time)
3 c. shredded chicken, cooked
1 c. BBQ sauce
1/2 c. chicken broth
1-8.5oz box cornbread mix
1 egg, beaten
3 tbsp skim milk
1/2 c. shredded cheddar

Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
In a saucepan, combine EVOO & onion over med-high heat.
Cook til onion is soft. Add peppers, jalapeno.
Cook about 5 minutes, stirring. Remove from heat.
Stir in chicken, BBQ sauce and broth. Mix well.
Transfer mixture to 1.5-2 Qt baking dish.
In a bowl, combine cornbread, egg, milk & cheese.
Stir until combined. Spoon over chicken.
Bake 25-30 minutes.
When you take the dish out of the oven, place a pat or two of butter on top of the cornbread.

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Babies & Blessings

Tonight, I had the honor of meeting the newest addition to our extended family, little Liam Rylee.
You can tell he adores me already.

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He was born around 5:30 this evening, via c-section. And he is just perfect.

Congratulation to Enoch & Lauren!

Whenever I see or hold a newborn baby, I am in awe.
Having had two babies myself, I know where they come from. I know how they are made.
But it still just completely boggles my mind that something so perfect and whole is created from a series of events that allow microscopic cells to create a PERSON.

Babies are just amazing. If you’ve ever seen an ultrasound of an eight-week-old baby, you know it looks like a little bean.  A bean with a heartbeat.
And it forms organs and limbs and facial features and, well, it’s just amazing.
A blessing.
A miracle.
A perfect little taste of what Heaven must be like, really.

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After the exhausting week we’ve had at the Lanford House, it was refreshing to experience a little amazement.
I spent some time at the hospital tonight and was fully aware of all the blessings around me, especially the arrival of Liam. Babies have that effect on people me.

I have been a little frustrated this week, which ultimately lead to me being quite angry with Chad’s medical team.
And then I took a step back and just looked at the bigger picture.

It’s true; I have many reasons to feel frustrated, and even angry.
But I have so many more blessings and things to be thankful for.
I lose sight of that sometimes. I’m human.

I have healthy children…if we don’t count ear infections.
I have a plan to manage my own health better.
I have a little slice of bliss that I call home.
I have great friends that support me and help me without a second thought.
I have a phenomenal family that builds me up and doesn’t judge me for any decisions I make for my family.
I have a husband that I love dearly. And I’m fairly certain the feeling is mutual…
I have two children that have amazing little hearts and souls.
I have an extremely flexible boss friend that keeps my family first and work second.
I have a mother that sacrifices much in her own life to help me manage mine.
I have people in my life that I’ve never met – but they support our family just the same.
I have peaceful, full heart. And I give God total credit.

I have what I need.
Faith. Friends. Family. Love. Laughter.
Little blessings. Big blessings. Blessings, all the same.

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What we learned yesterday

I wasn’t able to update much yesterday. It seems kind of silly that I didn’t update much yesterday, given that we were very late for every appointment and spent the majority of our day waiting. I left my laptop in the van because  I didn’t think I’d have the opportunity to update the blog since we were so late after the MRI.
Note to self: Skye, always take your laptop, even in the off chance that you may be able to use it.

What we learned from the MRI:
1- Always bring a snack. The MRI Center will run behind if you need to be somewhere else on campus.
2- Always bring the power cord for your laptop with you in the off chance that you will be waiting SO long your battery dies.
3- Have the MRI peeps call the doctor that you will be seeing next to let them know why you’re late…to avoid a late fee or canceled appointment. (Oh, that was a fabulous thought on my part! We avoided both scenarios!)

After our extended stay in the MRI Center, we drove over to the Cancer Center to see Dr. T. We were only an hour late.
And he was already behind, which he usually is. Our appointment was at 1:30. We arrive at 2:30. And we didn’t actually see Dr. T until 4:00.

Things we learned from Dr T:
1- Chad’s MRI is okay. No noticeable tumor regrowth.
2- Chad’s ventricles are finally the appropriate size – so the shunts are working!
3- Chad needs an increase in seizure medication.
4- Chad is a mystery. They can find nothing on the MRI that would make him have all the issues he is having.
5- The growth on Chad’s chest (where the shunt tubing was rerouted to the lung through his pectoral muscle) is likely a spinal fluid collection from the shunt tube. Which means it’s damaged in some way and will likely need to be replaced. We were sent to get a chest x-ray to confirm.
6- The irritation Chad is feeling from the second shunt tubing is going to have to wait. Basically, his body sees the tube as a foreign body and just needs some more time. Maybe a couple more months. If it’s still bothersome, we have a few choices.
7- We don’t have to go back until September for a 6-month MRI…unless we need to before then. See items 5 and 6 above – I’m sure we’ll be back before September.

The grand lesson there? Chad is a mystery. And Dr. T has NO clue why he feels so bad.

We got out of Dr. T’s office and went down one floor to see Dr. L, a Hematologist. To be honest, Chad & I didn’t really know why we were going there. But Dr. T wanted us to talk to Dr. L; a specialist in how medications react with the body. If anyone would be able to help or get us on the right track, it should be Dr. L.
Our appointment was at 3:45 and we actually arrived at 4:30. We saw Dr. F first, then Dr. L entered and discussed a few things with us.

Things we learned from Dr. L:
1- Chad, most likely, is experiencing the long-term effects of chemo, radiation, and a combination of all other drugs he’s taken over the last two years. It is, most likely, permanent.
2- There are a few medications Dr. L suggested we try….under the care of Chad’s neurologist in Raleigh.
3- Dr. T and Dr. L want Chad’s neurologist to take over all seizure and pain management medications.
4- There may be a hormonal imbalance (caused by radiation and chemo) that are causing a few of Chad’s problems. They need to analyze a blood sample.
5- Dr. L is not taking Chad on as a patient right now — because he feels we would be better served to stay local in the Triangle. (Which is good news; but also frustrating. WHY did we meet with him then?)
6- Trial & Error is what we are reduced to. We will try different meds and see what happens. And let me just mention that most of these medications need to be given a full 6-8 weeks to determine if they are effective. Not really fair in my book. But it’s our only option at this point.
7- Chad is a mystery. There is nothing on the MRI to indicate why he’s feeling so bad.

The whole appointment with Dr. L probably took about 45 minutes, waiting time included.
Then we were whisked over to the lab for a blood draw. Can you imagine how hard is it to get a phlebotomist to  come to the Cancer Center to draw blood after 5pm? All the clinic phlebotomists were off duty, so we had to wait for a hospital employee to come do it. It was a little difficult. Someone finally came and drew blood and we were on our way….to x-ray!

The “day” hospital closes at 5pm, like most businesses. So we had to go to inpatient radiology — and we had to get a map to show us where, deep in the bowels of the actual hospital, it was located. We made our way there — only to be greeted by a very nice (and talkative) fellow Johnston County native. She discovers that Chad’s x-ray orders are not entered into the system yet, and she starts calling Dr. T’s office. It’s after 5pm. No one is there. Or course.
But she does track down the Attending Physician and promises to get some orders in the system STAT.

At this point, Chad is pretty tired and he needs his medications. We decide to go get his meds (in the van — aaaallllllll the way on the other side of the campus) and then get something to eat. It’s about 6:00 at this point.
On the way to get his meds, Chad feels a seizure coming on. It never materialized, thank goodness.
He has problems walking down stairs — and wouldn’t you know we met every flight of stairs on the way to the parking lot? He nearly fell a few times, but was caught by the railing.

He gets his meds.
We go to the cafeteria to eat.
We go back to x-ray.
And they promptly call his name — it’s the first thing that has gone quickly all day long!
He is in & out in about 10 minutes.
We burn rubber to the van and hit the road. Finally. At 7pm.

Needless to say, I was exhausted when we got home.

What is the biggest thing we learned yesterday? Did you sense a trend?
Chad is a mystery. And no one knows what to do next.
They don’t know how to make him feel better or IF they can make him feel better.
I am frustrated. Not really mad (yet), but disappointed that our options seem so limited.

However, I am also thankful.
Chad is still here. He is still a fighter. And we still do have options, even though they seem limited.
And the MRI finally showed that his ventricles are working — and there is no tumor regrowth yet.

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Appointment Day: Thurs, March 4

We left home this morning and dropped the kids off, just like normal.
As soon as I dropped Cailyn off at preschool, we hit I-40 and made our way to Winston-Salem.
We made a stop to grab a bite to eat at 10:45, and we arrived right at 11:30 for Chad’s appointment.
I filled out his paperwork because his hands start to shake pretty badly if he has to write any more than his name.

He was called back around 12noon. I’ve been busying myself with little things I’ve been neglecting; and soon realized it was 1:20. I thought, fo sure, he’d be out by now. When I asked what was going on, I was told that Chad didn’t actually get into the MRI machine until 1:05. Yikes.

We have an appointment at 1:30 with Dr. T — and we’re going to be LATE.
I think we have enough of a buffer that we won’t be late for our 3:45 appointment with Dr. L — I certainly hope so, at least.

He’s feeling okay today, I guess. It’s hard to tell sometimes because he is so quiet. He’s tired and his head hurts, which is pretty normal for him, unfortunately.

I’ll update again after we see Dr. T!

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More surgery in our future

But this time, it’s for Carys!

I took Carys to the ENT yesterday afternoon, fully aware that we would probably leave with a recommendation for a second set of ear tubes. She had ear tubes placed in January 2008. The first tube came out on it’s own a little over a year later. She immediately started having trouble with the ear. But it wasn’t a constant problem.
Then, the other tube was removed this past Summer. Within a month, she was in the doctor’s office with an ear infection.
She has had one at least once every month and half since then.
Poor girl.
We’ve been through all the antibiotics, and even started from square one with her meds.
Nothing helps. It seems it takes the edge off the infection, but doesn’t quite kill it!
About two weeks ago, Carys had a nasty little ear infection that perforated her ear drum. She has a very high pain tolerance and doesn’t complain until something really hurts…obviously.
The ear drum is healing well and she passed a hearing test with flying colors — but she still has a lot of fluid in both ears.

I knew ear tubes would be brought up again.
But I didn’t even think that the surgeon would recommend removing her adenoids, too. I should have thought about it, knowing that adenoids and ear problems often go hand-in-hand.

Let’s just say that Carys is less than thrilled about having surgery.
She is excited, however, to know that she’ll be on a strict soft food diet for a few days after surgery.
“Mommy…is ice cream a soft food? Because I think it is. But not broccoli.”

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Tomorrow, Chad & I make the much anticipated voyage to Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center.
We are packing a bag, just in case we need it.
It would not surprise me if he stayed a night or two and had a little surgery himself on Friday.
I’m not hoping that happens, but I’m going to be prepared.
Nothing surprises me these days, especially the outcome of these trips to Winston-Salem.

I was surprised, however, to learn that Chad had a seizure last night while I was at a business meeting.
He has been enjoying leisurely strolls through the neighborhood lately. Sometimes I go with him, but he’s usually fine on his own and agrees to stay on our street for the most part.
Last night though, he had a seizure at the beginning of his walk. Thankfully, he hadn’t gotten far from home when it hit and two of our neighbors were able to help him back home. My mom was here with the girls and was able to fend off  two very inquisitive little girls.
He wasn’t able to speak or walk for quite some time afterward, and I hate that I wasn’t here. I know that I can’t do anything to prevent or help him – but he’s also never had one when in the presence of anyone but me or medical staff. I just like to see it for myself; to judge how “bad” it was, if that makes sense.
I should have known that another seizure would be coming since the last one wasn’t that bad, at all.
He’s feeling okay today, but is tired and has a more pronounced headache.

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I’ll probably update frequently tomorrow, as it will be a long day and I won’t have much to do besides wait for test results and appointments.

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TexMex Lasagna

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2 large flour tortillas, cut in half
1 cup salsa
1 can black beans, rinsed
1/2 each: red and green bell pepper, diced
1/2 cup sliced scallions, divided
1/3 cup diced red onion
2 cloves fresh minced garlic
1 seeded, diced jalapeno pepper
EVOO
2 cups shredded Cheddar Jack cheese
1/2 cup sour cream
2 cups cooked chicken breast, diced
1 bunch fresh cilantro

Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
Saute bell peppers, half of scallions, onions, garlic & jalapeno in about 1 tbsp EVOO (extra virgin olive oil).
Spread about 1/3 cup of salsa on bottom of 9×13″ baking pan.
Layer one halved tortilla. Cut the other half again and position in pan to cover bottom.
Spread bell pepper mixture on top. Spoon sour cream on top and spread evenly.
Sprinkle 1/3 of cheese on top of the bell pepper mixture.

Mix chicken, black beans, salsa, cilantro (to taste) in a large bowl. Mix well.
Spread in baking dish. Sprinkle 1/3 cheese on top. Layer with tortillas again.
Sprinkle remaining cheese on top.
Sprinkle with fresh cilantro and scallions.
Bake for 30 minutes.
Serve with fresh cilantro, scallions and sour cream.

Serves 6-8.
And is equally (if not more) delicious the next day!

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March? Already?

No, we haven’t fallen off the face of the earth again…yet!
This week, Carys heads to the ENT. We’ll discover whether another set of ear tubes are in her near future.
Chad & I will head to Winston-Salem on Thursday to have his MRI and talk with Dr. T and Dr. L about the next steps of this journey.

Nothing else to report.
Enjoy the pictures of the girls, who were quite smitten with some horses this past weekend. We attended a baby shower for my cousin Enoch and his girlfriend Lauren. We’re anxiously awaiting the arrival of precious baby Liam!

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Fundraiser Flyer

Please feel free to print, share & distribute.
If you click the image, you should be able to print it 🙂

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