My funny child

Carys and one of her friends asked me if I had a baby in my tummy yesterday. Yikes.
I wanted to reply, “No, I just like donuts. A lot.” But I didn’t. I laughed. Because I do like donuts. And, well, food in general.

And then I took it for what it was; a nice little reminder that I don’t have to stress eat anymore (or at least as frequently) and I need to take care of myself now that the man of the house is feeling better. So, thank you to the Truth-Telling Little People in my life.

While we’re on the topic of big bellies, I thought I would share this Carys funny with you.

Carys likes to write – anything and everything. Her new favorite thing to do is copy the headlines on magazine covers. She could do that for hours. It gives her practice at forming letters & I’m all for it!

But, there is a slight problem with her new hobby.
She has no idea what she is writing. Sure, she knows the letters, but she can’t read them.

She was working away yesterday, making a “card” for her VBS teacher. She’s a sweet girl – she likes to make cards for everyone. I let her go on and wasn’t paying much attention to what she was writing, or what she was writing on.
Luckily, I noticed a rolled up napkin in her hand as she was heading out the door for VBS and I asked her if I could see it.

Oh. My.
Am I ever glad that I checked the “card” before she lovingly (and unknowingly) passed it on to her VBS teacher.

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Oh yes, you read that correctly.

The first line has some random letters and her name, followed by:
FLATTEN
BELLY
BULGE
Carys : )

Whoa. Whoa. And WHOA.

I laughed so hard, and Carys didn’t understand what was so funny. I wouldn’t let her take the card to VBS, which she pouted about. But she got over it after I promised to help her make a different card today.

That child. She is so funny. And she doesn’t even try most of the time.
And I sincerely hope I can get her off the topic of bulging bellies!

Thank you!

thank you copyFor almost a month and a half, we’ve been relying on the kindness of his co-workers. They have donated their vacation time to Chad, which has helped us immensely.
It took pressure off of Chad to work from home when he could not focus or concentrate. And it took pressure off of me, trying to figure out where to find a paycheck!

A couple of days ago, I asked him what he wanted to do before his donated time ran out. He stated he would not ask for anyone to donate time, but he would not turn any down if people wanted to donate.

I am absolutely shocked as I write this.

Chad has just received quite a bit of shared vacation time from his co-workers.
I have no idea WHO did it – but please know that we are truly, deeply grateful.

I certainly do not want Chad to push himself to go back to work if he’s not ready; and I am deeply touched that so many of his co-workers care about our family that they would sacrifice their personal vacation times with their own families.

Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.

It’s OVER.

041bToday, I escorted Chad to the radiation suite of the Cancer Center for the very last time.
And I did a little happy dance inside.

The girls & I were up late (for them, anyway) last night, baking and decorating cookies for the radiation staff. They were tickled!

All of Chad’s labs came back good today, as usual.
All of questions were answered, and I guess I’ll just share them with you so you can feel like you were there with us in the exam room.

When is Chad’s next check-up at the Cancer Center?
In two weeks, for labs and a follow-up with Dr. Reilly (radiation oncologist).

When and where will the MRI be conducted? And how often will Chad have MRIs now?
It will be the August of 12th, at Rex.
If there is nothing notable in the MRI next month, Chad will most likely have MRIs every six months for the first year until regrowth occurs.

And what about that tumor regrowth?
Chad will be watched very closely for the first year, as that is the time period is which it’s most likely to occur. He will still be watched fairly closely for the next three years.

When will Chad have his hair back?
He should have a semi-full head of hair in about 3-4 months, as some of the patchy areas do have peach fuzz already.
Oh, the body is a miraculous thing isn’t it?

What about work? And driving?
Take it easy on both fronts. It may be okay to start working from home starting late next week or the week after that; but it’s completely up to Chad and how he feels.
Same with driving – he needs to “refresh” his driving confidence, and he’ll be taking short trips from home to adjacent neighborhoods in the next few days.

When can Chad stop chemo?
Right now! He’s done!
And no one is happier about that than Chad, I can assure you! We hope the stomach pains will subside and he will regain his appetite.
(I guess that means I’ll have to start cooking again, but I don’t mind. It will be nice one I get back in the groove again.)

As always, we appreciate your support, prayers, positive thoughts and concern.

We’re looking forward to getting back on a normal schedule and having conversations that don’t include any medical jargon. You may not see as many Twitter updates or blog posts in the next couple of weeks though – don’t be alarmed.
Carys starts a Kindergarten Entry program tomorrow through the next two weeks, I’ve got to make up for lost (and promised) quality time with the girls, and I’ve got a lot of other workish things going on. And, I think I’ll finally be able to kick my insomnia habit now that this radiation schedule is behind us. We’ll see — and I hope I didn’t just jinx myself!

A trip to the market is like a vacation

It rained all day today, so we were itching to get out of the house.
We decided to go grocery shopping — and wouldn’t you know I had an extra set if hands this time? I was shocked that Chad felt like going with us, but he did!

When I announced we were going shopping, Cailyn was very excited. She wanted to wear her sparky shoes (red glitter shoes from her Halloween Dorothy costume). I obliged.

When I buckled her in her car seat, it dawned on me that she was wearing her dress-up clothes.
Oh, whatever. She was absolutely giddy about all the “pretty ballerina” comments she received in 45 minutes!

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Chad perused the aisles and put a few things in the cart — which made my day! You have no idea how good it feels to see him getting his tastes back.

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And of course Carys was there too – sticking by the cart to see what goodies we were going to have for the week.

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True to form, she managed to convince me that she needed some Skittles while we were checking out. “Every kid needs Skittles, mommy. It’s like tasting a rainbow….aaaaand you know that commercial where that man eats his friend’s magic Skittles and his friend’s hair falls out? We don’t want that to happen.”

Oh no, what we don’t want is for our kiddos to watch entirely too much television and start reciting insane commercial plots to you.
I’m just saying.

Ask the Lanfords, Round 2

ask lanfordsBecause I’ve been such a bad blogger lately and cannot write a decent post to save my life, I’ve gathered a few more riveting questions from my inbox and IRL (In Real Life, for those not adept with Internet lingo).

What happened to the Friday Feast? I feel bad for asking about it, but I miss it!
The Friday Feast is one of those things that had to be put on the back burner for a while. I do plan on bringin’ it back, but I have no idea when.
And I’ll be perfectly honest, there hasn’t been much going on in the Lanford kitchen for quite a while. Chad’s diet consists mainly of Ensure, Pediasure and Boost nutritional drinks. He adds some yogurt and about one full meal a day to fuel his body. We’ve been eating very little – and I’m glad it’s Summer. Lots of salads and fresh veggies and fruit for us. Light and easy — that’s my style of food prep lately. I go weeks without turning on the oven and I’ve only grilled once in the last two months.

What inspires you?
There are so many things that inspire me.
My husband. My kids. My family.
All the beautiful things the world has to offer.
Everything and anything, really.

Are you sad, nervous, or excited about Carys going to Kindergarten?
All of it.
She’s ready, and I am too.
It hit me really hard when it was registration time because I will have a Kindergartner and a Preschooler this Fall. I will have some time to myself, and I’m not exactly sure how to fill it. (Though I’m sure I will manage just fine…)
Carys is very excited, even though she has bouts of anxiety too. She knows two children that will be there with her this Fall — and we’re hoping at least one of them will be in her class to help her a little bit.
I think it will be good for to have an established routine — and she loves to learn.

What’s your favorite picture of your little girls?
Oh, that’s a toughie!
I take many, many pictures of my little hams. Sometimes they actively participate. Sometimes I have to bribe them.

This is my favorite shot of Carys, taken in August 2008.

Carys 8 2008
This is my favorite of Cailyn, also taken in August 2008.

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And, while I’m at it, this is my favorite photo of them together. It was taken in September 2008 in Wilmington at the Cotton Exchange.003

It captures their personalities perfectly; Carys is our happy-go-lucky giggle girl. And Cailyn is shy and more reserved; serious even.
I enlarged this picture and had it printed on a 16″x20″ gallery wrap by Canvas On Demand. It’s hanging in our hallway, between the kitchen and the girls’ room. It’s one of my very favorite things.

What ever became of your kitchen remodel project?
Oh, I would use the term “remodel” very loosely.
We Chad painted the kitchen a lovely shade of apple green that I hated once it was on the walls but it’s grown on me. I was then going to have curtains made — but after driving myself crazy with fabric swatches that I wasn’t thrilled about paying out the nose for, I gave up. And added yet another item to the back burner.
So, we now have a bright green kitchen with the old curtains that have that shabby chic don’t-really-match-but-I-don’t-really-have-time-to-care look about it.

Is Chad’s hair loss permanent?
We’re not really sure. Sometimes it doesn’t come back at all. But in most cases, it does.
While in the waiting room this week, I was reading over a few new pamphlets on radiation therapy and its side effects.
Apparently, the average time for hair to grow back is three to six months.
He doesn’t like hats, so he’s going to have to get used to the Mr. Clean look for a few more months yet.

When can Chad go back to work?
No one is more eager to get back to a normal routine more than Chad (and probably his coworkers).
We really hope that Chad will start feeling better after treatment is complete this week. However, I’ve also read that he may feel pretty puny for two-three weeks after treatment is over. The radiation is still technically “active” during the first few weeks following treatment. Radiation works by killing off the cancer cells -as well as the healthy cells- and it takes the body some time to rebound and rebuild.
Chad is hoping to be back by the end of the month. We’ll just have to see how it goes.

Will any other side effects be permanent?
Again, we do not know. Only time will tell.
Most of the side effects were lessened (or have completely gone away) once he tapered and finally weaned off steroids (dexamethasone).
He still is easily and constantly fatigued. He was chronically tired before the surgery, so I think that’s something he will just have to deal with. We are hoping that it will become more manageable once radiation and chemo are complete.
He does still have some concentration and memory problems. Again, we hope that those issues will resolve after treatment ends.
And I just have to say that I am extremely eager to see where we are now. The tumor resection was nearly four months ago (shunt nearly three months ago), and I’ve not really had Chad “back” since that time. There were a few days following the shunt surgery that he was more like himself, doing housework and such – but he was still on steroids at that time. When all the meds and treatment effects are out of his system, I hope he genuinely feels better than he did pre-surgery. It was our goal to have him feel better in the long run, and I hope we met that goal.

What is your favorite comfort food?
Lately, if it’s in my kitchen, it’s a comfort food.
And it depends on the day. The mood. The heat index. The size I was able to wear that morning.
I have been making an effort in the last few weeks to eat better and take better care of myself. There is nothing like bathing suit season to force you into a body wake up call. Also, there is nothing like a three-year-old announcing “Mommy, you gots a big hiney!” very loudly in a tiny department store dressing room stall with bad mirrors and shady lighting.
Honestly, I’ve been thinking of making a switch to a more vegetarianish lifestyle soon. I need to kick my sweets habit. I need to lose this stress-eating weight I’ve accumulated in the last year.

Oh, I was off topic.
Favorite comfort food?
Mashed potatoes. Fried chicken. Cheese and crackers. Mexican. Italian. Anything freshly baked. Anything with bacon or cheese. Anything with a dip.
Yea, I think that pretty much covers it.